2 Corinthians 7:14-16
14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said,
“I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them,
and I will be their God,
and they shall be my people.
I once had a strange encounter with a church’s pastor search committee. I had been working in Korea for only 1 year, and was home for a vacation. I got a call from a man who asked me to have lunch with him. It turned out that he brought his entire search committee with him even though I told him quite clearly that I was not interested in a move.
During our conversation, one of the committee members asked me this question: “Would you perform a wedding for a Christian and a non-Christian?” I told him that, according to 2 Corinthians 7, God forbids his children from intermarrying with the lost. The man then replied to me, “Well, you wouldn’t’ have married me and my wife.” His experience was that he was not a believer when his supposedly Christian wife married him. At the time of the meeting, they had both become believers. I responded by telling him that, though God graciously sometimes allows our decisions not to lead us to disaster, to choose to disobey god’s direct command is still sin. The man’s response to me: “You know, I often hear that answer from you guys who are just out of seminary, but as you get older, your tone will change.”
What the search committee member was trying to tell me was that his personal experience—his wife married a non-Christian with positive results—actually trumped the strict command of the Bible. How common is this view? Look around your church. How many ladies do you see in church without their husbands who are not saved? For some reason, it has been the practice of the church for years to ignore God’s command for his children only to marry other Christians, and this with devastatingly sad consequences.
Of course, from this passage, we should learn that Christians must only marry Christians. But we can also learn from how this command is so often disobeyed. Refusing to follow God’s commands is deadly. To read the word of God, see the command, and then turn from it with a shrug and assume it does not apply to you is very dangerous.
What has God’s word called you to do? What has God’s word called you to be? Are you shrugging off any commands of god for the sake of your emotions? Are you assuming that what you have experienced is more solid and trustworthy than God’s word? O Christians, be careful. Honor God by following his commands as they are written in his word.